**Stress and Getting Married
-There are aspects of the engagement stage leading to the wedding that make it stressful
-Studies have found that getting married is rated in the top 10 most stressful life events
-Getting married is a huge commitment, a lifelong commitment, so it’s absolutely natural to have fears, concerns and doubts
-It is important to realize that most people have fears, concerns and doubts and that this is very natural.
-In fact, it is probably a good thing to have a realistic view on your relationship – knowing that a healthy relationship is not necessarily perfect.
-Initially the couple believes their wedding is just their own.
-The truth is that they are part of a community and other people, especially family, have their own thoughts and ideas around their wedding.
-Depending on your families or the culture that you come from these can play a small or a big part in your decisions and may add extra pressure because you find you are caught between the two families.
**Financial Stress and Getting Married
-Getting married can generate high levels of financial stress.
-Financial worries include paying for a ceremony, making sure your families are happy with what they are or aren’t contributing financially, looking for a new place to live and one hundred other things.
-These complicated financial decisions, on top of everything else on your mind, can be daunting and stressful, and even negatively impact other areas of your life.
-It’s very normal to be overwhelmed — emotionally and financially — in the weeks and months leading up to your wedding
-Changes in your personal finances, living arrangements and family unit are difficult to manage no matter where you are in your life, but those getting married can be especially affected by the financial pressures and changes during this period of transition, especially where considerations past the big day are concerned
**The Relaxation Response
-The relaxation response is the rest and digest part of the nervous system.
-It basically undoes the work of the stress response after a stressful situation.
-The relaxation response happens when we feel safe, nurtured or taken care of.
-It can block effects from your body’s response to stress.
-This is good for your mental and physical health.
**Effective Relaxation Techniques
-The most effective relaxation technique is one that works for you!
-Different relaxation techniques will help different people at different times.
-What works for you this week, may not work next week.
-But it might work again next month.
-Our needs vary and so it’s important to have a toolbox of relaxation techniques to help you on a regular basis.